Sit loose on the saddle of life

From time to time we face judgment and negative opinion from others. Many of us tend to react in some way as opposed to simply continuing to be who we are and allowing people their opinion.   After all, everyone is entitled to their opinion, it doesn’t necessarily mean it is true.  

Some people thrive on being liked and approved of and it sometimes causes them to do things in their lives they would not do otherwise.  Have you ever asked yourself what is the other side of reacting?  What if you were to be the real you and not a reaction?  What would this look like?   What would you be saying and doing?

When I was reacting to a situation once, someone close to me said: “sit loose on the saddle of life”.  This statement was unusual and caught me so off guard that I just started laughing and the laughter stopped my reaction.  

 How do you keep from reacting or getting yourselves out of that mode?

 I am listening …

Reader Comments

Kati Konersman

Could it be that the one reacting is also part of us, part of our real self? I perceive our real self as the totality of who we are, it embraces every aspect of our being at every moment.

When I react to a situation, a negative one to mention the type that you are referring to, I always find an observer inside of my mind who is watching how I immediately want to do something about it to make it “right”. Either say something, justify, defend. If I listen to that observer, the line that I hear is the one you mentioned “everyone is entitled to their opinion” and who am I to contradict that. I also find that if I am blessed by the grace of the moment, if I am in that space where all is well, then I can listen and find a tiny nugget of a lesson in it.

Thank you for continuing to inspire us.

 

Judy

I love those nuggets! And thanks for reminding me of that higher place within oneself.

Once a couple shared with me what they do when they find themselves reacting to each other. Whomever catches it first will yell out “turtle alert!!”. This is their code for — “honey, we are doing it again, lets just stop”. They also shared that ever since they agreed on using this code, their disagreements have shortened in lenght and in frquency. Like you said Kati, grace steps in!