When I ask people to make a thorough and exhaustive list that describes them, first they come up with their top 3 qualities.  Then without even blinking an eye, the list of negatives follows.  Typically, when the list of negatives is exhausted, it is a struggle to come up with an equally extensive list of positives. 

Try this: pick someone that knows you well and whom you respect.  Ask them to make a list of your positive attributes.  Have them share the list with you.  Listen and receive.  Do the same for them.

We are so used to finding fault with ourselves, making ourselves wrong and not giving ourselves enough credit that letting positive things in is not easy.  No more!  

What are your qualities? Come up with a way to keep the positive feedback going.  

I am listening …